Single Skid

  Author D J O'Bree

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Inspirations behind Single Skid

Posted on 22 September, 2016 at 10:00 Comments comments (0)

Hi Everyone,

 

This week my blog is what was my inspiration for writing Single Skid? My inspiration would have to have been survival. To survive finding out that Doc was in a motorbike accident, survive the fact that he had been there all day without me, survive being so frightened to what I’d find when I arrived at the hospital. So many thoughts were running through my head from that first phone call, that there had to be a release somewhere for me. Some place, that I didn’t have to burden people with my thoughts. My worrying thoughts of self doubt and the concern for Doc’s health, sometimes felt unbearable. Everyone had their own thoughts and worries, they didn’t need mine to add to their concerns. My diary was the place, the place that helped me so much by being accepting of my words and not having any opinions with what was being written on it’s pages. I read a quote somewhere and it really became something that I live by: “If it’s not on paper, it’s not of this world” meaning that if many thoughts run around and around in your head, then there will be no solution. Writing it on paper, helps us to release thoughts and it allows space to be created in the head, space that can sometimes help work on a solution to our problems. I found writing a huge inspiration to go on. At night I would write about the day that I had, when I visited Doc in hospital and any small improvements that he showed me during that day.

 

Then, when I found out that Doc had suffered a traumatic brain injury and he also was suffering with post traumatic amnesia, my inspiration for my writing then turned from doing it for my own solace, to now keeping a memory for Doc. He had been taken from the realm of knowing and had been taken to a world of the unknown. In my mind, I was thinking, I must continue to keep a log of all Doc’s days in hospital and the brain injury unit, so that one day, he could realise just how far he had come.

 

So, the inspiration to writing this book had changed along my journey. It brought some peace to a very complicated and confusing part of my life. I could write everything and anything in that little diary, that eventually turned into this little book.

 

If any of you are going through a difficult time in your life, may I suggest that you pick up a pen and paper and write. Write all your thoughts down, even the hard thoughts. You will be surprised at just how much writing can come from a situation of any size. The paper is an outlet to surrender all those things that you are going through.

 

So take some time to share your thoughts with a paper and pen. Who knows, there may be a book there somewhere.

 

Deb

 

Press Release

Posted on 12 September, 2016 at 0:40 Comments comments (0)

Hi Everyone,


The press release in the USA is the 19th September.  One week later, it will be Australia's turn.  Looking forward to letting people know about the book Single Skid.

It's amazing to realise how many different directions this book has taken, firstly it was diary entries, so that I could cope with what was happening to us.  Then it moved into keeping records for the future, so that Doc would realise just how far he's come.  Now it's moved into a realm of a life line to people that may be going through a difficult time at a hospital with their loved one.  I am hoping to bring some comfort and support to those people who need to hear that yes, it is a hard road, but you aren't alone.

Shall blog more on related topics soon.

Have the best day everyone.


Deb

Promotions begin

Posted on 26 August, 2016 at 21:10 Comments comments (0)

Hi Everyone,


The promotions for my book Single Skid will be beginning shortly, shall keep you all up to date with when and where.  I am so very excited and nervous at the same time,  to be embarking on this journey. Deep down I really wanted to complete the book, to show myself I was capable of it mainly.  My wish for you all, is to be able to follow your dreams, no matter how small they are, go for it.  It's so worth it and it gives you a strength that you never believed was there.

So aim as high as the sky everyone, we have no limits and it's mainly fear that prevents those limits being reached.

Have a fantastic day.


Deb

Reviews & Testimonials

Posted on 25 July, 2016 at 23:40 Comments comments (0)

Hi,


A huge thank you to those of you that left a review of my book Single Skid, I really do appreciate the time you took in leaving such great reviews.

Please feel free to leave to leave comments at any time.

Deb

Book Launch

Posted on 25 July, 2016 at 23:15 Comments comments (0)

Hi,


Putting some plans together for a book launch in the next few months.  I will be posting details as soon as I get them sorted.


I also am awaiting some calls from the publicist and social media launch will be taking place soon too.  So all very busy in the world of Single Skid.


Have a great day.


Deb

Hay House Radio Interview

Posted on 13 July, 2016 at 20:40 Comments comments (0)

Hi,


Just did my Hay House radio interview this morning.  It was so great chatting to Jenn Morris at Hay House.  Jenn made the interview so easy and everything just flowed along nicely.

It was interesting how the feelings of the day of the accident can be brought to the front of my mind, the moment I start talking about it again.  I am so proud to have been able to speak about Single Skid and get the word out there and I hope it helps many people.  I'm hoping it will give hope to those people who may be going through a really tough time.  Sometimes we can't see the light at the end of the tunnel, I want my book to show them it is there and they can find it to.

Love is a strong emotion, with that we can win, without it, we lose.

Have a fantastic day.


Deb

Launching

Posted on 13 July, 2016 at 0:40 Comments comments (0)

Welcome to my first blog entry for 2016 and the start of many more to come.  :)

I am currently bundling up many copies of my book Single Skid, to send to as many hospitals as I can.  I'd love to see them in the ICU rooms throughout Australia.  To help people in those situations and to help soothe them, during times of confusion and heartbreak.

Having someone within the doors of an ICU is a challenging time for everyone.  I experienced it, and I'm sure there are people reading this blog that have also been there.

We truly must search for our strength within, this strength that is buried so deep within us, is the key to our survival and the survival of those loved ones that are sitting in those waiting rooms.  We sit there for hours and hours, just waiting for any form of update.

I am so very proud to have been able to complete this book, although many years have past since the accident in 1996, we still need to pull those memories back into our minds, to remind us just how far we have come as a couple. 

Doc amazes me every day, with his sense of humour and the love that we share is everlasting.

I found that writing all my emotions down on paper, was the greatest thing I could have done.  To this day, I write as much as I can to release any stress I may have.  Writing = release.

So don't forget to write.


Till next time

Deb

The importance of listening

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Hi Everyone,


Today's blog is about the importance of listening.  Listening is such an important part of helping people who have suffered a brain injury.  During Doc's recovery, the speech pathologist reminded me to always go back to basics.  Basics of communication.  To always remember to face Doc when he was talking or if I was talking to him.  Too commonly we get into bad habits of being unaware of how we speak or listen to people.  Sometimes people that are in pain or suffering a brain injury are unaware of their surroundings early on in their recovery.  It was so important for me to remember the basics when communicating with Doc early on.

I would always make sure I got his attention first, so that when I went to talk, he was aware.  I found, that when the months rolled on, it was so much easier to communicate with him and he also found it easier to be more aware. 

Unfortunately, people who didn't know what Doc had been through, would become increasingly impatient with conversations they were involved in with Doc.   They would make the comment "gees, I don't need your life story", this would happen at coffee shops if Doc was just trying to make conversation with them.  He was still trying to reduce the amount of information that he would give, as people that have suffered a brain injury are unaware that they are doing it.  He became increasingly aware years later and would comment that he'd given too much information.  So he was improving as each month past.

I found those situations quite annoying and I found people very unaccepting of just making someone feel good and making a small conversation a pleasant experience.

So instead of making Doc feel embarrassed, it would have been so much nicer for him to have been listened to.  The importance of listening to people is such a huge thing.  None of us know what others have been through, so why should we judge them and make awful comments, which doesn't make them feel good.

Looking people in the eye when they speak and not judging them during the time they are speaking, would make the world a nicer place.

Have a great day everyone.


Deb


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