|Posted on 25 October, 2016 at 6:25||comments (0)|
This Friday will be the airing of my Hay House Radio interview. So very excited, hope you get a chance to listen to it.
|Posted on 23 October, 2016 at 18:40||comments (0)|
Today's blog is about the importance of listening. I remember way back, when Doc was recovering and the speech pathologist had said to me, how important it was to go back to basic communication skills when talking. Just getting Doc's attention first, before speaking and to really listen when he was talking, was so very important. I found that to become more easier over the years and it really made sense to me to do that. The amount of information that Doc would give was excessive early on. That was what he worked on first, was the amount of information given, patients that suffer with a brain injury often had this issue. It could be worked on and the amount of information could be reduced, when they were more aware. Doc and I would eventually have signals, so that I could discreetly let him know that he'd given enough information during each conversation with friends or family. He became so much better over time.
So listening was a huge part of how we communicated. It was important for me to stop and listen to Doc whenever he was speaking. He would often become quite frustrated when people talked over the top of him or would interupt before he'd got his point across. So I became someone, that was so much more aware at how I listened, not only with Doc but other people aswell.
We need to be able to listen to friends and family and they do need to feel validated in all their thoughts and feelings. I know myself, that if I get talked over, while I'm in mid sentence, I feel unheard. Such and uneasy feeling, when you feel that way. Especially when there is no need for people to cut others off mid sentence, just because they think that what they have to say is so much more important than the other person.
So open up your ears today everyone and listen to people, you may be surprised at what you hear.
|Posted on 19 October, 2016 at 20:35||comments (0)|
This post will be about opening the library, my library, the one that helped me get through those rough times during Doc's recovery.
My go to book is always Louise L Hay's "You Can Heal Your Life". It helped me be calm when I needed to be, to have faith where I faulted and to give me guidance when I needed it. Her positive affirmations were so uplifting, that to this day I follow them daily. I've always had her calendar that has an affirmation a day. Each day brings a very strong and positive affirmation that will help you look at the day with a big smile. Those affirmations helped me incredibly.
There are many people I read now, I'll list them below as there are so many.
- Inna Segal
- Eckhart Tolle
- J.K Rowling
- Allison Dubois
- Wayne Dyer
- Shakti Gowain
- The Dalai Lama
- Doreen VIrtue
- Rhonda Byrne
- Lawrence Ellyard
- Cheryl Richardson
- Kerri Fitzpatrick
So as you can see from just this small list, there are many authors that have helped me through adversity. I could list hundreds more and list all my books in Deb's library. I read many books to do with positivity and everything and anything to do with Harry Potter. We all have an array of different genre's that we read through, we seem to grasp something from one book and grab something from another. That's the beauty of reading, it can help us through anything if we can just take the time to read more.
Happy reading everyone.
|Posted on 17 October, 2016 at 18:55||comments (1)|
It was an incredibly big day yesterday, I was on The Daily Edition on Channel 7, here in Sydney Australia. The nerves were very high, but bearable. I had the producer Nora Hunter keeping me in check, she was so brilliant in her manner.
I went to hair and makeup to start, that seemed like such a dream. My son Kurtis was with me, which also helped me to stay grounded throughout the process.
Before I knew it, I was shaking hands with the hosts, Sally Obermeder and Tom Williams. What an amazing, friendly team. All the people that keep the show running smoothly were so helpful and all kept me feeling like I could actually do this.
The interview went so smoothly and I felt quite relaxed as the questions were asked. In case you missed the interview here's the link.
I dropped off 4 copies of the book to Nora and she was able to pass them out. I left on a cloud, floating towards the railway station and so very proud of myself for achieving a live tv interview.
When I turned my phone back on, there were countless messages from friends and family, messages on facebook of friends that had been at home and watched it. A friend that I hadn't been in touch with had sent me a message saying," imagine my surprise as I sat down for a cuppa and my old friend Deb was on live tv." I found that very amusing.
Going to the interview and being on live tv, has given me the confidence that I can achieve anything. If I can pass that on to you all and help you see, that you are all able to achieve great things in your life. You just have to believe in yourself.
Never lose sight of your dreams, they are only as far away as you let them be.
|Posted on 12 October, 2016 at 3:10||comments (0)|
I've been invited for an interview on Channel 7 on Monday with hosts Sally Obermeder and Tom Williams on The Daily Edition in Sydney Australia. So very honoured to be chatting to them about my #book. So catch it from 2-3pm on Monday about 2.30pm, hopefully I look cool, calm and collected. #channel7 #singleskid #tvinterview #dailyedition #sallyobermeder #tomwilliams #motorcycles #tbi
|Posted on 8 October, 2016 at 3:35||comments (0)|
Over the next few weeks, I will be interviewing Doc on his journey to recovery.
We will cover many topics about all his experiences from arriving at hospital to coming home. I hope to bring some perspective from a person who has suffered injuries through an accident, as we journey together through Doc's experience through his eyes.
I look forward to bringing you this interesting interview.
|Posted on 4 October, 2016 at 6:05||comments (0)|
This week’s blog is about “Tips on harnessing your inner strength”.
When I first heard about Doc’s accident, I went into a different world. A world I found was very dark. That insane, unknown world. The one that a lot of us have been thrown into without a choice. There are many tips that I can pass on from my experience, so that hopefully it can lighten someone’s load of heaviness through their moments of pain.
• Being grounded – just focussing on every moment and realising when you aren’t coping.
• Write down your true feeling (yes, I’m banging on again about this) – be truthful in your writings, don’t hold back, the paper can’t judge.
• Don’t dwell on the accident – how did it happen? Who’s fault was it? Why them? This is the time that you need to focus in on what the future looks like.
• Spend time listening to your loved one, their feelings are filled with emotions, emotions that need to be heard. They are also struggling with the accident and what has happened to them.
• Trying not to get sucked into others negativity – don’t let their thoughts about the situation stay in your thoughts. Keep your thoughts positive as best you can.
• Staying positive is the most crucial thing, throughout any accident situation. I found that I was focusing on ANY small achievement as a positive. When one finger flickered, it was the greatest achievement.
• Being thankful is another big one. Thankful for your loved one still being alive. In those cold evenings when I was home, on my own, I gave thanks.
• Your inner strength is always there. We just need to close our eyes, take a deep breath and use everything we have to get through it.
• Our families can help us be strong, as sometimes we need to support them aswell.
May your load be lightened a little, if you are going through a really bumpy ride. You all have this inner strength within. Sometimes it takes a huge thing, such as Doc’s accident, to make you realise it’s always been there on tap. We just needed to realise how to unlock it.
|Posted on 3 October, 2016 at 9:10||comments (0)|
There are so many people that I come across who have so much going on. My advice to them is usually to tell them to pick up a pen and paper and write.
Most of them say that they don't have the time, or don't know what to write about. I thought that exact same way many years ago, when I first put pen to paper. The first days were so strange, not much said and alot of the time I giggled and laughed at the things I was writing about. I'd write about things that had happened through the day, maybe also the things I wanted to happen. During that time, I realised a lightness that came over me, especially after writing more and more each time. It does take practice, much like anything in this world. But the reward is amazing. To feel clearer and lighter is such a great feeling.
Some things I wrote were also sad, how I was feeling if someone had hurt me in some way. Those sort of emotions and feelings are the ones we feel we need to keep to ourselves and not burden others. We all know people that are going through rough times, so we don't want to add to their woes. That's understandable, so the writing down of those feelings, helps us to release all of that. We feel better that we haven't worried others over how we are feeling.
I can't imagine what I'd be like, if it hadn't been for the writing I did during Doc's ordeal. I really don't think I would have been as grounded and as positive as I was. I also feel that it helped Doc aswell, with me being more grounded and felt I was in control a bit more, than if I hadn't done the writing.
So, if you get the chance today, just sit down with a pad and pen and jot out a few things that happened today, good or bad. Before you know it, you will be jotting things down a lot more and feeling a lightness that you haven't felt before.
Wishing you all a great day.
|Posted on 27 September, 2016 at 4:40||comments (0)|
This week’s blog is about the journey to recovery. It will share my observations of Doc’s recovery and my own experiences with my own challenges. With this blog, I hope to reach out to those that may be going through a similar or totally different experience. Maybe even starting a conversation amongst people about what they have experienced or are experiencing.
The recovery process for Doc was a very long one. It went through many different stages.
• Drugs sedating him during the first few days.
• Doc’s recovery began when he first opened his eyes.
• Waking up for the first time and not knowing where he was.
• Being so confused day in and day out.
• Not recognising people in the family.
• He didn’t converse very much.
• Not being able to remember the picture cards that the medical team would challenge him with.
• He was very subdued when it came to his personality.
• Medications would cause severe drowsiness, so each time he woke up again the confusion would set in.
• Moving to the Brain Injury Unit, was just another thing to get used to.
• Settling in and becoming aware of the people that were suffering around him.
• Starting physio and many other therapist visits.
• Coming out of the Brain Injury Unit for a weekend visit.
• Finally coming home for good.
Watching the strength and determination during those months and years was truly amazing. He’s one man, who has shown us all that anything is possible when we have something to live for.
My journey alongside Doc was very mentally challenging. Many, many different emotions began from that first day and beyond.
• Shock and disbelief.
• Sadness at the hospital for that first visit.
• Loneliness when he couldn’t speak.
• Determination to keep going.
• My journaling was the best outlet to release my feelings.
• Joy when he opened his eyes for the first time.
• I needed to be strong for him with support during his recovery.
• Helping him be positive.
• Elation when I could bring him home.
So as you can see, there are many different emotions involved in these sort of situations. There is a strength that we can tap into, to be able to endure such challenging times. Like my last blog, keeping hope alive in your heart can really help.
|Posted on 24 September, 2016 at 19:15||comments (0)|
We all need to keep hope at the top of our priority list, especially when our loved ones have been involved in accidents that leave them unconscious. The part I felt was the most difficult, in such a situation, was walking out of the hospital and leaving Doc there. He hadn’t spoken a word, opened his eyes, or smiled or laughed. It was such an awkward feeling, not being able to hear him speak. I’m sure many of you may have experienced such a feeling. I realised that I wasn’t alone with these feelings, when I could see for my own eyes, that same look in other people’s eyes at the hospital. After a time, I realised, everything was the way it was meant to be. I had to be strong, for not only myself, but our baby and Doc himself. I had lost it, the moment that I found out about the accident, my pregnancy brain kicked into gear. Such anxiousness came over me after that phone call, I was very lucky my mum and dad were there. Not sure how I could have driven myself there, in the state I was in.
From the moment I had seen Doc, gone home, had a good cry, I realised something. He was still here and that was a great thing. Yes, there were many nights of missing him and wanting him home, but he was alive and that’s all that mattered. I dug deep and I found a great strength, a strength that truly got me through those real difficult days. I’m sure it’s in everyone, we just need to search a little deeper if we feel we aren’t coping with things that are challenging us.